Dear Friend and No IBS Program User,
Have you ever found yourself reeling with shock, barely able to respond or think clearly after someone gives you bad news or makes a remark that you find unbelievably insensitive?
This is a classic example of the “freeze” reaction. You have just been traumatized! Whatever that person has said to you triggers your nervous system into “shut down” mode. This is an unconscious survival reaction and your brain is trying to protect you.
Has that person ever been a doctor or other health professional?
When they are, you may feel as if you have been doubly betrayed. Aren’t medical people supposed to look after you, treat your needs with sensitivity and respect, and have the answers to your health problems? You are usually at your most vulnerable in the doctor’s office or hospital.
Yet, sometimes medical people can say things that leave you feeling upset, discouraged, and outraged. Even one experience like this can make you dread having anything further to do with them.
In this letter, we’re going to give you a tapping script for dealing with the shock of something the doctor said. You’ll also find one to use when you feel alone and lonely because of IBS.
Tapping for the shock of what the doctor said:
KC: Even though I was shocked when the doctor made that insensitive comment, I deeply and completely accept myself.
EB: I was shocked by that comment
Take a deep breath, and relax.
Tapping for feeling lonely because of IBS:
You know very well that most people don’t understand what it’s like to live with IBS. This can result in you feeling very isolated and alone. ‘Pooping problems’ are not a popular topic for conversation. When your life seems to revolve around these issues it can create a profound sense of loneliness. Sometimes you try to protect other peoples’ feelings by keeping your problems to yourself – again leaving you to cope on your own.
Let’s do a tapping script to help release some of these feelings.
KC: Even though I feel so alone with my condition, I accept who I am and where I’m at.
EB: I feel so alone
If you wish, you can repeat the first round.
EB: I accept myself anyway
Take a deep breath, and let it out.
Tapping on other aspects that arise:
You may notice that other thoughts, feelings or memories come up when you tap through these scripts. If so, go ahead and tap on them. You can use a simple set up statement such as:
Even though I feel ______ (or I remember ______), I deeply and completely accept myself
Here are some examples:
1. After tapping about the shock of what the doctor said, you might realize you feel angry or hurt by the comments.
“Even though I felt angry / hurt, I’m ready to release that episode and I choose peace.”
Then tap on “I felt angry / hurt”, or “This anger/hurt”
2. After tapping on loneliness, you might find you feel sad so you could tap on:
“Even though I feel sad, I deeply and completely accept myself.”
Then tap two rounds on “I feel sad” or “This sadness”
3. Or, after tapping on loneliness, you might have a memory about a school friend or someone else who unexpectedly moved away – an event that left you feeling shocked and lonely earlier in your life.
“Even though I felt shocked / lonely when my friend left, I know it was in the past and I’m ready to let it go.”
Then tap on “This shock / loneliness when my friend left” as your reminder phrase.
If you would like to tap a third round, here is one you can use for any of these issues:
EB: even though I felt shocked / lonely
Take a deep breath after tapping, and let all of that integrate.
Please email us with your thoughts, feedback, suggestions, and questions. There are no stupid questions! Even if it’s something small, we would like to help you with it.
Good health to you always!
Karen & Kathy
Karen Alison and Kathy Raymond